The day he came
one year
Today on his two year anniversary
Its hard to believe that Baby boy has been with us for 2 years. So much has changed in the last few weeks in terms of his prospects of staying with us forever. We found out a few weeks ago that he may be going home as soon as the end of this year. We are having a hard time processing all of this. This past summer he was still at one visit a week and according to his case worker the goal was going to stay "return home in 12 months." But...his visits have increased to 4 hours at a time and just this week his parents had unsupervised time. He may start overnights as soon as October 18th and from there they are requesting that he return home in 5 months. We have a court date October 4th and we are sure the judge is going to agree with this new plan. Although this was always a possibility we really started to believe that he was going to stay forever. A year and a half into this his parents still hadn't done anything on their case plan and the recommendation was made that his goal change. Twice we went to court with that recommendation and twice the judge said no. My heart breaks for this little boy who is going to be ripped from the only home he has ever known. I wonder if the judges read books about trauma and the effects it has on young children? At this point in his life the trauma of leaving his family, the only parents he knows and his brother and sister could possibly lave him forever scared. He will be leaving an environment that is healthy and stable only to enter into one that is less then optimal. He will go into daycare, he will go into poverty, he will go.....
2 comments:
Who is this idiot "judge"--and can people write him letters or send him the books that you are talking about?? I cannot believe this is happening--it is soooo, soooo wrong!! Where children are involved, it should be 1 strike, you're out!! None of this giving them chance after chance, with the rest of us taxpayers giving these sleezebags, food-stamps & paying for their rehab!! What is wrong with these judges? Where is common sense??
Unfortunatly there is really nothing that can be done. I guess Illinois is a state that in many cases returns kids home even though it's not in the child's best interest. This is just breaking out hearts and it's almost too much to bare. The likely hood of Baby boy coming back into care is pretty high, if that happens we will have another tuff decision to make because his parents will get a case plan again and an opportunity to get him back once again. It's a vicious cycle. We don't think it's in Goose or Bubba's best interest to have Baby boy moving in and out of their lives so unless we are able to adopt him straight out we have to make this tuff decision. Please keep him in your prayers.
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